Today I went to a local late night shop and stayed in the car whilst my daughter went into the store to purchase soft drinks. A car pulled up behind mine and five very large drunk football supporters emerged. One made comments about my head must be cold cos I was wearing a scarf; a second mentioned “Paki cow” and a third did an imitation of an Indian style dance. Why? Well, I can only assume that as my wig is uncomfortable I have taken to wearing a black silk scarf. Unfortunately this isn’t the only problem I have had from rude people since I lost most of my hair (very nearly bald). Some make comments, others simply stare and others point and laugh. It could be said that I am being paranoid, but when people point, make comments and laugh it is a little difficult not to be upset.
The moral of this story is this. Before you make comments about someone with very little hair, consider why? I would not wish this illness on anyone, even the ignorant Lager louts who are so rude, or the women who make sarcastic nasty comments within hearing, but it is the luck of the draw that many of us at some time or another will suffer with this dreadful illness and have to suffer the treatment but, before you make comments, think “that could be me! At some time in the future, I could be in that position.”
Comments: (These comments were cut & pasted from web archive to save them!)
Shelagh
June 26, 2004 07:56 AM
Bastards! It doesn’t matter how much you can rationalise their ignorance and rudeness, it still hurts.
kdip
June 26, 2004 05:31 PM
As we emerge into the post-Christian era, one thing that disappears along with our belief in God, is one of the laws of life associated with that belief: the Golden Rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. That may have been the grease that kept civilizations running smoothly.
si
June 26, 2004 06:44 PM
when i’m out with my mum i’m always alert for people staring at her (and her headscarf). the first time around she was very paranoid about her hair, this time she isn’t letting it stop her. being 6’7″ i’m used to people staring at me and maybe i deflect a lot of the attention aware from her. don’t let arseholes stop you from getting out there. you’re hair will grow back but they will always be arseholes.
take care.
Lynn
June 27, 2004 02:32 AM
The really sad part of this tale is that I’m not in the least bit surprised that you suffered such indignities at the hands of what can only be described as thoughtless scumbag members of society. I often wonder which stones they’ve managed to crawl from under. Considering we’re supposed to live in an enlightened society it’s amazing just how many of our fellow men and women seem to be from way down in the gene pool.
((Mizmo))
Isis
July 23, 2004 09:34 AM
I think that those people are rude! They had no right to do that, or say anythin that they said! I think that you should be happy the way you are. If they want to act spoiled then let them! They are just pure mean!